Unanswered Prayer

It is popular to say that no prayer goes unanswered as long as we take "No" as an answer.  Other possible responses to our prayers, other than getting what we asked, include "Wait" and "No, but here is something better."  However when God responds in one of those ways, we can know it.  We "hear" His answer in our spirit.  What about when nothing at all happens?

Hindrances to prayer, things that keep us from communicating with the Father, fall into two basic categories.  There are things that keep us from being heard.  Then there are things that keep us from asking.

Jeremiah found out that there were conditions under which the Lord would refuse to hear His people's cries (7:16; 11:14; 14:11-12; 15:1).  The Psalmist wrote, "If I regard iniquity in my heart, the Lord will not hear" (Psalm 66:18 NKJV).  Examples of sins that block prayer (Isaiah 59:1-2) include idolatry in the heart (Ezekiel 14:3), failure to help the poor (Proverbs 21:13), mistreatment of one's spouse (1 Peter 3:7), self-indulgence (James 4:3), and lack of faith (James 1:6-7).  This list is representative, not exhaustive.

One preacher who grew up on a farm told how he would sneak off behind the barn to hide his smoking from his father.  Once while he was indulging his habit, he heard his father coming.  Hiding the cigar behind his back, he tried to distract his father by calling attention to a circus poster on the barn wall and asking if he could go.  His father replied, "Son, never ask for a favor with a smoldering disobedience behind your back."  Those who would approach the Lord must have "clean hands and a pure heart" (Psalm 24:3-4).  Only through Jesus may we approach the throne with confidence of receiving what we need (Hebrews 4:14-16).

Sin may keep us from receiving what we ask.  However, in His grace God often gives us what we don't deserve.  He uses kindness to lead us to repentance (Romans 2:4).  So even non-believers will sometimes have their prayers answered.

But there is a prayer that goes unanswered 100% of the time--the prayer that goes unoffered.  It is like the basketball player who said he failed to score on all the shots he failed to take.  James said, "You have not because you ask not" (James 4:2).  If we are too lazy or too distracted or too busy to ask, then God will not answer.  Just as there is a vital connection between prayer and faith (Mark 11:24), so is there a link between lack of prayer and unbelief.  The more we believe in the God who answers prayer, the more we pray.  The more we pray, the stronger grows our trust in Him who answers.  On the other hand, if we have little faith that God will answer, it is unlikely that we will pray.  Then when we don't see answers to prayer, what little faith we might have had diminishes.  Soon we find ourselves going without prayer, serving Him in our own way and in our own strength.  Such a life is doomed to fruitlessness.

Just as the only way to learn to swim is to get in the water, so the only way to learn to pray is by praying.  Let's start with baby steps or by crawling.  And if we can't do either of those, let's learn to roll over.  But we must begin.  God will be as delighted with our efforts as a parent is in his child's first steps.  He will help us.  He will teach us.

Let us pray.

AAA Prayer Part 2

Approaching His presence is the most important part of prayer.  After all, our real need in prayer is the Lord Himself.  We don't need things; we need Him.  He doesn't just give us wisdom or courage; He gives us Himself to be wisdom and courage within us.

Being in His presence should lead to a second phase of prayer:  aligning with His purpose.

Henry Blackaby in Experiencing God reminded us that God is always at work and is always inviting us to join Him.  We experience the joy of seeing God's glory manifested in our reality when we adjust our lives to God's will.  The story of the Bible is not what great men did for God but what a great God did through men who were willing to adjust their lives to His plans.

When the disciples asked Jesus to teach them to pray, His model prayer highlighted the importance of alignment.  Approaching God's presence first ("Our Father, who art in heaven, hallowed be Thy Name"), disciples then commit themselves to His purposes ("Thy kingdom come, Thy will be done, on earth as it is in heaven").  Only after those first two steps had been taken were personal petitions to be presented for physical needs, social/relational needs, and spiritual needs.

If we align our lives with His purposes, it is possible that presenting our specific needs will be unnecessary.  "Delight yourself also in the Lord, and He shall give you the desires of your heart" (Psalm 37:4).  "But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things [the necessities of life] shall be added to you" (Matthew 6:33).  Sometimes God may require us to ask for specific things in order to manifest His glory and increase our faith (thus the truth "you have not because you ask not" James 4:3).  But generally speaking, His provision is always there for those who follow His vision.

God is not a cosmic vending machine.  He does not exist to meet our needs or grant our requests.  We exist to serve Him.  Out of His grace, He showers us with many blessings, but we must never forget who is servant and Who is Master.  As David Platt says, we were created to enjoy His grace and extend His glory.

After approaching God's presence in prayer today, let's submit our wills to His will.  Let us pray that His purposes will be fulfilled and the whole earth will be full of His glory (Habakkuk 2:14).